lol. :)) but I guess rape!slash is an exception.. ;)

*thwaps you* :P

that's been happening in fandom for decades. silly, silly, silly... *sigh*

People have been doing all sorts of stupid shit for a very long time. *g* Doesn't mean I'm not going to point it out to them.

The sheer stupidity of some people never fails to astound.

That's how I feel too, in addition to how I feel about people writing het in a modern based fandom WITHOUT MENTION OF A CONDOM and then completely ignoring that condomlessness even AFTER the sex. I guess fictional characters and celebrities don't have to worry about venereal diseases or pregnancy. Must be nice.

I must admit, I've been guilty of the no condom one in het sex a time or two. *sheepish* Which is impractical, of course, but at least it's not painful. *g*

It's not the lack of condom that bugs me so much. It's the fact that after the sex it's like "lalalala STDs don't exista nd I HAVE NO OVARIES SO THANK GOD."

lol

From now on, you could just assume that all women are wearing the female condom. *grins* You'll feel better.

...Yes I suppose.

See, this is why I stick to fandoms that come before the invention of the latex condom (1848, or something like that, I believe. I know mid-1800s)

THANK YOU.

(via dawning_star)

I agree with you, but I was curious and looked it up on Minotaur and it said (in answer to the question of unlubricated anal sex):

Well, it depends on the guy and the circumstances. If the catcher is experienced, and relaxed, it can actually be possible to have non-lubricated anal sex without too much damage or pain. There would probably be some tearing of the anal ring tissue, and some bleeding, but not so much as to require medical attention. On the other hand, if the pitcher is rough, or the catcher inexperienced (or the situation is a rape or non-consensual), there could be substantial bleeding requiring a trip to the ER and maybe some stitches (though I don't actually know if stitches would be the best treatment for a tear in that area).

The real danger in anal sex is the possibility of tearing the inner membrane of the anal canal, which can lead to peritonitis. But that is VERY rare in normal sex - it's more likely to happen from rape or inexperienced fisters (fingernails can be sharp).

For the most part, non-lubed anal sex is a no-go, the catcher wouldn't be able to stand the pain, though there are guys who are able to relax the muscles enough to do it.

Which just means that it's not impossible but it's certainly not advisable. I once wrote Dom and Lijah having unlubricated sex, btw, and I doubt I'd write that again cos I know more now, but I don't regret writing it when I did :)

... and the italics were meant to end after "to do it" and before "which just means", but you knew that... :)

I can recall only writing one het sex scene without the use of a condom. It occurred in a dream, so I didn't consider that truly necessary. *shrugs*

But I understand the points you're making. The alternatives are literally too painful to think about.

Gah, guilty. I really should know better. Have only done one instance, but it's recent enough to be embarrassing.

*ashamed*

Asses do not magically lubricate (no matter what the Elves think).

For the longest time, when I first started reading LOTR slash, I thought I'd missed something in the Silmarillion and that Elves had magical, slf-lubing assholes, but then I realised that it was just bad writing.

By, was I ever disappointed. I was hoping Tolkien had come up with a brilliant idea. Sigh.

My other peeve around assfucking and lube is the seriously misguided notion that water is lube. Um, no. Water (as in, in a tub or pool or ocean or lake) is not lube. It can be worse than no lube. It is not possessed of adequate viscosity to lube anything.

For the record (since some people rave on and on about this, obviously not knowing what they're talking about) it IS indeed possible to assfuck using only saliva as lube without injury. In real life. No magical Elf-powers required. But I wouldn't recommend it for beginners, and definitely not the first time your character ever assfucks with whomever he's assfucking with.

But no lube ass sex? Hurts to even think about it.